Oxytocin: Nervous System-Soothing Honey

The nasal spray that helped heal my heartbreak

You’ve probably seen me share bits and pieces of my temporarily turbulent personal life over the past 6 months, including the ending of my decade-long marriage. Here’s a little update on how it’s going and how I got here:

I’ve been processing it all myself— unpacking the reality of waking up to a major misalignment that can only be solved by dissolving the entire life I’d put my all into.

Feeling it all, and I do mean ALL… the relief, the regret, the shame and guilt, fear of the future, anger, you name it— all mixed in with reconnecting with simple pleasures and joy in the mundane.

It took me a while to recognize the emotional and nervous system weight I’ve been carrying for the past several years (which felt like an eternity); not just my own stuff, but largely also his.

My marriage largely fell victim to what started as pandemic fallout, bringing out the absolute worst— and I believe that neither of us were the same after 2020. We deeply fell into unhealthy patterns of poor communication and coping instead of connection, to say it as nicely as I can stomach.

Days felt long, weeks felt fast, and somehow over the course of 5 years, things got really toxic. By the time I was ready to really face the reality I was living in and see the level of dysfunction, I was so burnt. Sparing personal details that aren’t helpful— I will just say that I had lost all sense of security and was living on eggshells 24/7 navigating being under the same roof and both working from home, yet never really feeling human connection.

The impact on my physical body of being in fight or flight for so long?? Well, we’ll unpack that soon, if you want to hear more about it. Let’s just say for now that it explains a lot of things that’ve gone wrong.

The separation and divorce process hasn’t been smooth or easy, even though I initiated it—but it’s DONE (well, except for a few shreds of paper trails that I’m eagerly wrapping up, literally this week!) and I’m happy to report that I’m feeling more like myself than I’ve felt in years, little by little.

How I got here was in a lot of baby steps, emotional rawness, and big scary decisions that were all in deep devotion to my soul truth and purpose. And some of the tools I’ve used have surprised even me, so I have to share.

The short list includes a lot of biohacking, like prioritizing circadian health (sun exposure, bedtimes), intense breathwork and acupuncture to some good ole’ talk therapy for a while. Honorable mention to the sometimes 5-deep meditation tracks I needed to get myself to sleep most nights, during the thick of it.

BUT, the main thing you’ve all been asking for: I briefly mentioned on Instagram this past week that I’ve been using Oxytocin nasal spray for nervous system support, and the crowd went wild!

So simple really— you literally just shoot a spray or two up the nose, and within about half an hour, I can feel my body GROUND.

This can be taken as needed, and I haven’t really used it super consistently— just when I felt the need for a supportive chemical hug.

Now I should say— I did wait until I was completely out of any shared space (as in, had moved out of state) before introducing Oxytocin— I didn’t want to risk any false sense of a shift or emotional murkiness until I was in the clear.

But the reason why this has worked so well? Simple Chemistry.

Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter made in the brain, released most powerfully during things like touch, connection, intimacy, and even childbirth. For women, it’s one of the nervous system’s secret weapons. It tells the body, you’re safe here. It smooths stress edges, sparks connection, and helps anchor you back into calm and joy.

When life feels like the total opposite of security—supporting oxytocin can be the difference between running on raw nerves and actually feeling grounded in your own skin. For me, oxytocin nasal spray has been a bridge back to safety and softness when my system needed it most.

Hope this helps! Sending you all the healing vibes to where you need it most.

Follow the link below to check out the exact product I’m using, and use code DESIGNERGENES for a little off the top.

Oxytocin Nasal Peptide